December 2nd 2025
001- re: relationships
THIS IS BUILDING A RELATIONSHIP (1)
hanging out - direct, explicit, synchronized, engages space, ephemeral.
call - direct, explicit, synchronized does not engage space, ephemeral.
text - direct, explicit, unsynchronized does not engage space, permanent.
groupchat - indirect*, explicit, unsynchronized, does not engage space, permanent.
THIS IS EXHIBITIONISM (2)
private story - indirect*, ambiguous, unsynchronized, does not engage space, ephemeral**.
public story - indirect, ambiguous, unsynchronized, does not engage space, ephemeral.
private feed - indirect*, ambiguous, unsynchronized, does not engage space, permanent.
public feed - indirect, ambiguous, unsynchronized, does not engage space, permanent.
live - indirect*, ambiguous, synchronized, does not engage space, ephemeral.
[building relationship] is bilaterally engaging = exchange (3)
exhibitionism is self-affirming/self-creating/self-recording (4)
=> it is either an act of public introspection i.e self-surveillance or of signaling.
(2) => exhibitionism always encourages parasociality
(2) & (3) => it is possible to have a parasocial relationship with someone you know personally
effects are higher when exhibition is synchronized
exhibition <=> broadcast
*restrictive
**depends
direct =
opposed to indirect
explicit=
opp to ambiguous
synchronized=
opp to unsynchronized
ephemeral=
opp to permanent